There’s a valuable lesson in not always having things handed to you.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be naturally smart and thin. Neither of which I am. I’m not saying this from a place of self criticism or low self-esteem. I’m saying it from a place of truth. I know who I am.
I’ve also dreamed of what it would have been like to grow up in a big house with affluent, rich parents. Instead, I grew up in a roach infested apartment with a single mother who was barely making it without the support of the system. God bless my mother. She worked her ass off!
For me, I’ve had to work very hard for everything.
If I wanted to make money , I needed to work hard and produce.
If I wanted a leaner body, I had to get off the couch and go to the gym.
If I wanted good grades, I couldn’t just study for 10 mins before the test. I had to put in hours just to maybe get a B.
Nothing has come easy. Everything I have, came from effort and WORK. Basically, I’ve had to work my fucking ass off!!!!
Today, as I’m watching my daughter who is naturally gifted with intelligence and gets straight As with very little effort, I wonder is this really going to help her in real life? Is she ever going to know the grit of working her ass off to achieve something because it wasn’t easy?
Mia’s trying out for a part in a play today. She didn’t practice her lines at all and 30 mins before the audition is when she finally decides to practice. She’s learned that she can put in minimal effort and still get by. Will this minimal effort help her now? Will she get the part she wants? Maybe…maybe not.
I know several people who are just naturally thin, always have been. They can eat whatever they want, they barely move ,etc. You know the type! Ugh Will they ever know the struggle of killing yourself on a run or pushing yourself at the gym and feeling like you’re actually going to pass out ? That hard work makes you dig deep into the depths of your soul!!!
Today I’ve realized, I wouldn’t trade the natural intelligence, inherited money, or the thin body, for the grit that’s come from not having it all handed to me! I wouldn’t have the grit without the struggle.
If you’ve read this far, be proud of your grit because the struggle got you there!!!